When Should You Send Your Wedding Invitations and How Should They Be Addressed?

If you didn’t know, your wedding invites are one of the most important elements of the planning process because they give guests crucial information. Therefore, this means that they shouldn’t be slapped together in just one day. They should be carefully and thoughtfully constructed to help ensure that your guests both RSVP and are informed of any “rules” that you have regarding the dress code and/or bringing children, etc.


When should you mail your wedding invitations?

Typically, wedding invitations should be mailed out at least 6-8 weeks before your wedding. If it is a destination wedding, the invitations should be sent out, at least, 3 months before the big day. In the end, it is vital to send them out as soon as you have them ready to allow your guests enough time to RSVP, take time off from work, find babysitters or make necessary travel plans.

Should you have a deadline for RSVPs?

Absolutely. Most of the time you will need a final head count to give to your wedding planner or caterer to finalize your seating chart and make sure you have enough food. In fact, even though your caterer and/or wedding planner will not need the final head count until a week before your wedding, you should make your RSVP date 2-3 weeks before the big day.

How should you go about letting guests know vital information (that it is adults-only and that there is a dress code)?

First and foremost, it is important to understand that you should address your invitations correctly. In other words, list each guest by name and do not include the “guest” option if it is addressed to just one person (unless, of course, the person is allowed to bring one guest.) If you suspect that the person has replied with his or her children’s names, you should call the guest right away and make it known that it is an adults-only wedding. Inevitably, if you want to avoid having to deal with telling family members or friends that they cannot bring their children, you should make it clear on the invite.

In regards to the dress code, you should make it clear whether it is cocktail attire, black-tie, or casual attire on the front of the invitation so it is seen immediately.

Should you include your wedding website and registry information on the invitation?

No. Your “save-the-dates” should have included your wedding website and thus do not need to be included on your invitations. Including your registry is a big no-no because it can make you and your fiancĂ© look impolite and also give the impressions that you are coercing your guests into bringing gifts.

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